The Art of Trusting Yourself: Lessons in Healing, Alignment, & Self-Love

The Hollow Quill JournalFeminine Energyhealing journeyMidlife Awakeningspiritual & sexual wellness

Oct 14

I am immensely proud of myself.

That’s not something I could’ve said a few years ago.

I have been a work in progress for too many years – blindly walking through life, letting everyone else narrate my story while I stood quietly in the margins.

My trust was shattered too many times that I truly believed I‘d never trust anyone again.

And let’s be real – I wasn’t some saint through all of it. I’ve made mistakes. I’ve hurt people, too. But I’ve learned to accept my karma with grace.

I’ve faced it, felt it, and healed through it.

What I refused to keep doing was letting others dictate my worth or direction. I needed to learn how to love myself enough to make decisions that honored me – decisions that created a better life for myself and my family.

It took years of work, tears, silence, prayer, and long nights talking to my reflection like she was my only friend. I had to rebuild trust – not in others – but in myself.

*Shop the things that helped me reconnect with myself — from the scents that soothe to the rituals that remind me I’m home.

Because once you trust yourself, everything else starts to align.

Somewhere along the way, I realized that overthinking and worrying were my ego’s way of trying to control an outcome I wasn’t ready to receive yet.

So now, we limit the worrying and we no longer spiral.

We trust that everything is going to work out exactly as it should. I’ve done the work. I know I’ve been showing up and I know my intentions are pure.

I’ve been a one-woman show for a long time, carrying every dream, every goal, every vision on my back. And lately, the universe has started rewarding me in quiet, sacred ways – through opportunities, genuine people, and yes, even through love.

This morning. I came across this quote on Instagram that stopped me dead in my scroll:

“To the person I was, I’m sorry I didn’t always see your worth. I’m learning to love you now, flaws and all. To the person I am, Girl, look at how far you've come! To the person I’m becoming, I can’t wait to see how brightly you shine.”

As I read this, Whitney Houston I Will Always Love You started playing quietly in the background – and I lost it.

Like, ugly crying, snot in my sleeve, full-body release, lost it.

I’m an emotional person by nature, but this time, the tears weren’t from sadness. They were from gratitude – for the version of me who never stopped trying. For the woman who chose to keep believing in herself even when no one else did.

I thought about how far I’ve come. About the girl who used to shrink herself down, who second-guessed her every thought, who needed constant reassurance. The girl who didn’t see her own worth until she started sitting alone with it.

Now, I see her.

Now, I am her – always healing, unabashedly loud, grounded, and learning to trust my intuition with everything I’ve got.

When you start walking in alignment with your intuition, life will test the hell out of you.

The universe throws what I like to call bottle-rocket challenges – the kind that try to explode in your face but ultimately light the path forward.

They’re proof moments. You’re being asked, “Are you really ready for the blessings we’re about to send?”

And when you trust yourself enough to keep going, that’s when the blessings start showing up; EVERYWHERE. And that my friends, is the time to scream “HELL YES, BRING ON THOSE BLESSINGS!!”

I find them daily – in long, uninterrupted writing sessions that feel like therapy.

In the long quiet nights I relish with HG, savoring every bit of US. To the mornings we wake up together, entangled and already feverishly searching for each other before we start our day.

In mornings, walks with Ellie. Feeling like the world finally slowed down to my pace. FaceTime calls with my parents and children, every single day.

Those are blessings.

They remind me that presence is the reward – not perfection.

Trusting my intuition also changed how I connect with others – especially HG.

Our relationship is rooted in communication, peace, honesty, and laughter – the kind that makes your whole body cackle. I’m no longer operating from insecurity or survival mode. I don’t overanalyze every word or moment.

Because I trust myself — I have every reason to trust his word.

That’s the beauty of intuition – it doesn’t just protect you from the wrong people, it helps you recognize the right ones. And when someone’s energy feels calm instead of chaotic, when their actions match their words, when their presence feels safe instead of performative – you’ll know. You won’t need to question it.

He honors my peace without disrupting it. Supports my dreams, and pushes me to be the best version of myself. Often reminding me to NEVER CHANGE WHO I AM.

Following my intuition – whether it led me to walk away, to stay, to speak up, or to soften – it’s brought me exactly where I needed to be.

And today, that place is peace.

So here’s to the version of me that trusted her intuition even when it made no sense. Here’s to the woman I’m becoming – one decision, one gut feeling, one act of faith at a time.

I’m immensely proud of her.

And she’s just getting started.

Until next time…